Chivalry

I'm not an expert on relationships, so don't ask me for advice, but I do have a message to share that is important.

Men, treat women with respect. All women are beautiful, unique, datable, pursue-able, more than just curves and humps, not property, objects, and they are definitely not unbreakable objects. For example, if men and women were to be objects, men would be a 19th century cast iron furnace. You can smash, check, or ding that thing however you like and it will remain there intact. In contrast, a lady is like fine china or a wine glass. Protect it, savor it, store it, adore it, treasure it.

I see too many examples of this in movies, music videos, tv, and other entertainment performances. I even see it now on one of my friends' wall on Facebook! Women need to know that they do not have to meet a standard in order to get noticed or whatever. They are already in glory by God the Father! As the capstone of Creation women are to be revered and treated better than they are by men.

There are a few men that I know that would agree with this, but not wear it with a button or bumper sticker. The fact is that chivalry is not dead but it goes largely unnoticed. I try to do what I can, and I hope more men do. Another fact is that while actually many men probably exhibit chivalrous deeds, they do not get noticed because they are simply acting out being a nice guy. The only other seemingly opposite trait to this is avoiding being the nice guy and being a "bad guy." Now, I will explain why this trend seems to work better than trying to be a nice guy for getting attention by women but also leads women down a wrong path.

Fact: women want a leader. They would admit this. They would not admit, however, that the reason why they are with a total d-bag a-hole of a guy is because he stands for something, even if it is totally bad. Nice guys stand up for being nice, but a "bad guy" would say he has grown out of that phase and is a dog with a loosed chain collar eagerly awaiting the next fix of adrenaline and excitement. A woman will get drawn to this based on the subconscious--underlying nature--of what a woman wants. They don't want "that guy" and how he has it, but they want what he's got. They want a nice guy to treat them well and a "bad guy" to hang around... they can't have it both, sadly, and this is how many relationships will fail.

So, men, be a leader. Be a chivalrous leader. Don't just do it because it's nice, do it because women need more of it around. And I'm not saying break your back to hold the door for 10 minutes or always put the shirt off your back over every puddle in the sidewalk (chivalry can be overkill sometimes), but respectfully treat them like people.